An engagement is a promise to marry. It is also known as a betrothal. The occasion for formalizing an engagement and announcing the same to the society is known as an Engagement Ceremony. It is a fun-filled pre-wedding ritual. The period from the engagement to the wedding is known as Courtship and the to-be husband and wife are referred to as betrothed, fiancé-fiancée, or engaged to be married. It is one of the most beautiful periods in a couple’s life as they meet each other to get to know each other better. It is a formally permitted period of dating in an arranged marriage.
Importance and Significance of Engagement Puja
The bride and the groom are chosen by each other and their families by various methods such as common acquaintances or matrimonial platforms. Horoscopes are matched to check compatibility. The families along with the couple agree to announce it to the entire world through a celebration. The Engagement Puja is organised so that all the Gods and Goddesses bless the couple for the most momentous occasion of their life and also for their happy life together after that. It is also known as Ring Ceremony because the couple exchanges rings. Other names for engagement puja include sagai, roka, chunni, Nishchitartham, mangni, kurmai etc.
Benefits of Engagement Puja
Any Puja is done to improve the harmony, peace and happiness in our lives; so does an engagement puja.
Many versions of the engagement puja also include the Graha Shanti Havan, it safeguards not only the couple but also both the families.
The engagement puja is a predecessor to the Vivah Puja and is done to bring a deeper and loving understanding between the couple and also their families.
Because it is connected to astrology, this Puja understands the placement and movement of various planets and their effects on the couple and their marriage.
Occasion to do a Engagement Puja
The engagement ceremony is always held before the wedding ceremony. The gap could be that of years, months, days or even hours.
Many communities, in fact, hold the engagement puja on the same day as the Vivah puja, just a few hours before the latter.
Engagement Puja Vidhi
The bride’s side gives presents to the groom’s side and the groom’s side in return brings suhag related items for the bride like an outfit along with accessories.
The to-be bride then dresses up in these items and sits for the engagement puja.
The pandit then makes the couple and both sets of parents sit for the puja. Some pandits also make sure that the respective siblings are seated in the front. In many communities the groom and his father officially ask for the bride’s hand from her father.
The bride’s father then accepts the proposal.
The couple then seeks the blessings of the divine deities to bless their union.
A Ganesh puja is conducted.
The feet of the bride and the groom are washed by the members from the other side.
The ladies on the groom’s side conduct the aarti of the girl and place auspicious items like coconut, haldi, kumkum, akshata, mishri etc. in the to-be bride’s lap.
In many communities a chunni is placed over the bride’s head.
The bride and the groom then exchange rings and flowers.
They are then asked to seek blessings from the elders.
The pandit announces the engagement formally and the guests congratulate the couple and their families.
Mantras to Chant During Engagement Puja
"|| Om Shrim Om Hrim Shrim Om Hrim Shrim Klim Vitteswaraya Namah ||"